|Children, at some point in their lives, will face hard knocks. This is why it is important for you as their parent to equip them with a strong self-image or just enough confidence to thrive in life / Photo by: Katarzyna Białasiewicz via 123RF|
When you think that your child is succumbing to the pressure of social media, does it make you a little nervous? After all, peer pressure is really reaching a different kind of influence level in this digital age. Bullying can likewise happen even through a gadget. But before your kid can even have their first social media account, you probably hope that you have already instilled enough confidence and strong self-image in them so that they can objectively determine any peer-to-peer circumstance.
Remember that children, at some point in their lives, will face hard knocks. This is why it is important for you as their parent to equip them with a strong self-image or just enough confidence to thrive in life.
What Self-Image Really Is
Self-image is how a person perceives themselves. If the kid is looking at themselves in the mirror and they like what they see or are comfortable with that person reflecting back at them, then that means they have a good self-image. They are the kind of child that thinks of themselves as someone worthy of their parents’ love and someone who can achieve things. On the other hand, the lack of good self-worth or self-image may lead to behavior problems. How then do you raise a child with a strong self-image?
A team of pediatricians and a registered nurse from AskDrSears shared that it is never really too early to begin the lesson of raising a confident child. They reminded parents that self-esteem is going to be the kid’s “passport” to a life of social happiness and mental health. At any age, how they feel about themselves will also affect the way they act.
|Self-image is how a person perceives themselves / Photo by: Sean Prior via 123RF|
Start With the Parent’s Own Sense of Confidence and Self-Worth
They noted that in the child’s early years, their self-image is closely associated with the mother’s view of herself too. So, it is better if there is a mutual self-image building between the mother and the child. It is easy to teach a child that they matter in this world if the parent is also showing the kid that they also matter. Now, go ahead and become that positive mirror for your kid. AskDrSears believed that it is therapeutic to parent a child because in caring for the little one, the parent is likewise healing themselves.
Consider Attachment Parenting
Attachment parenting is putting yourself in the position of your infant, who may spend most of their time in your arms, breastfed on cue, and their cries are responded to sensitively. If you really give time to imagine how the infant feels, you will realize that the baby feels valuable and loved as they received lots of touch from the parent and is showered with lots of praises. Attachment parenting is a high-touch kind of parenting that will help develop the child’s self-worth even before they started walking or speaking. The technique of baby self-image is the parent’s responsiveness to their needs. Infants are giving cues like they cry if they want to be comforted or fed.
Avoid Drawing Comparisons Between Another Child
Even if it is their siblings, avoid comparing the child to other children. Instead, you appreciate their unique gifts and individuality to help build their self-image. If it’s in your faith, teach the child that they are constructed in the spiritual DNA of God and this means that they are God’s heirs too.
Playtime gives parents plenty of opportunities to learn about their children and themselves. By playing with the child, you are sending them the message that they are a valuable person and are worthy of your time. So, rather than seeing playtime as a task, consider it as an investment for their behavior later in life. As much as possible, allow the child to initiate the gameplay because they will feel confident that their parent also likes things they said or wanted to do.
|Playtime gives parents plenty of opportunities to learn about their children and themselves / Photo by: Olesia Bilkei via 123RF|
Do Not Do All Things for the Child
While it may be easier and faster to dress your child, allowing them to do it themselves will help them gain new skills necessary for life. Furthermore, the more they encounter new challenges and solve them, the more confident they will feel. That is why it is important to be patient with your child and allow them to do things on their own sometimes.
Give Age-Appropriate Chores
In relation to not doing all things for your child, you can also assign them age-appropriate chores at home to teach them how to be responsible. This advice is from parenting magazine Parents. Simple tasks, like folding the laundry, walking your pet, or setting the family’s dinner table will improve their problem-solving skills and further make them think that they are competent to do the tasks. This technique is called teaching kids to be home-wise first before being street-wise.
Other tips include addressing your child by their name, encourage their talents, and don’t offer baseless or insincere compliments.